I know that advice “be yourself” is a little bit cliché, but I think that it is the best advice you can get. Seriously, I think that we are just wired in certain way, we have other personalities, we like other stuff, and we behave differently in various situations.
According to my observation, people don’t change much in their lifetime. Sure, they can change their thinking about life or some other things, but their personality, their flaws and advantages remain the same. We are just like robots, only biological ones.
I think that we should be aware of our strengths and flaws, crush it in those areas in which we have natural predispositions to be awesome.
I will never be a bad boy.
I’ve tried to behave different in some situations, I have tried to become a badboy towards women, because we all know that badboys are desirable by majority of women. But I always failed at it miserably, I just can’t be a badboy, I’m a kind person and care much about others, but I’m really comfortable with it. I won’t ever have so many girls as badboys, but who cares?
I figured it out that I even don’t want to have a lots of girls, and I really don’t want to change my personality in order to have them. With my personality I can have less but deeper relationships and in that field I have advantage over some badboy.
Math isn’t my thing.
In the past I really thought that I can achieve anything in any area of life. I thought that I need to go and repair my weaknesses, I went to areas in life that weren’t for me, that I sucked at really bad, and I thought that with self-discipline and hustle I will be good at it.
Second story is about math. I sucked at math and I wasn’t interested in it. But in high school my plan was to go to college and study programming.
I needed to learn math and be good at it in order to apply to college that I wanted, therefore I studied very hard for about 8 months in order to pass the last year’s exam with good grade in math.
I failed badly, even when I studied so hard, ten times harder than anyone, I still was worse than my friends who were innately good in math and they really liked it anyway.
That wasn’t my thing, I didn’t like it, I forced myself to learn it and to pass this exam. But, that wasn’t enough.
I realized that I didn’t want to have anything in common with this subject. I have other areas that I’m really good at without so much effort. I’m not English native, but this language never was any obstacle for me. I didn’t have to study hard to learn it, contrary to my friends who really struggled in school with simple grammar and vocabulary.
So, better to stick with these areas in which we have natural predispositions.
Of course Gary Vaynerchuck is the most known person for me that strongly spreads the thought about going for your strengths not weaknesses. He talks a lot about self-awareness and he claims that this is the most important skill that we should have.
Share your thoughts about this subject. Peace!